Healthy Relationship Secrets - What Is Attraction and Can It Really Be Created?

Building healthy relationships requires the understanding of how attraction is built, and this is in more than just dating relationships. This is because the same things which attract the opposite sex (confidence, charisma, charm, wit and trust) can also make you more attractive to anyone and increase your ability to build strong connections with others. So as we look at this simple "recipe" for building attraction, remember that this can be applied in any interaction with another human being....

What is Attraction?

There's nothing mysterious about attraction when you think about what actually causes it. Attraction is caused by a "feeling" that YOU get while you're around another person. This feeling is a tangible vibration of your nervous system which is sometimes accompanied by a chemical response in your body. Your mind then interprets this feeling as "good" and confirms that the person who awakened this feeling is "attractive..." in other words, that they're someone you want to be around.

So attraction is a physical energy and once this energy is awakened in someone, it becomes an involuntary process within their body. In fact, when you think about it, no one is really attracted to another person as much as they're attracted to the feeling which that person awakens in them. ?So attraction isn't about you, and the more aware you are of this, the more you'll be able to get your self-consciousness out of the way and build attraction in the other person.

How to Create Attraction

The "attraction energy" which was described above has three characteristics: it appeals to the three human needs of validation, excitement and security. If you get someone excited without appealing to their need for security, they'll likely be a little uneasy about their feelings towards you. This is often described as being "too good to be true" or even "phony." On the other hand, building only security will quickly bore the person as you won't be appealing to their need for excitement.

Finally, it's important to begin with security and excitement and to save validation for when you've built some rapport...if validation comes first it will come off as mere flattery.? It's security and excitement at the same time which create an irresistible magnetic force. Add to this a feeling which makes a person feel validated, and you're creating massive attraction.